“…and we agree on a vague length of time that it’s acceptable to date before an engagement (ie: I’m not waiting around forever, so you should know that ahead of time).”
I need to know how to get to here. My boyfriend and I have been dating 2+ years (3 yrs in May) and I just don’t know how to bring this up without sounding like I am just itching to get hitched. The only thing we’ve really discussed is yes, we are both open to marriage (it would be the 2nd for me, 1st for him) and we have talked about moving in together, probably this summer. I would really feel better about moving in together if we were engaged (bad experience with a past live-in BF) but i don’t want to sound pushy about it. Any suggestions (other than, just talk to him!)? For the record, I am HORRIBLE at talking about how I feel and my opinions. That gaslighting article someone posted on here was like an instruction manual for my ex-husband.