i guess i would be considered “pre-engaged”. me and my boyfriend were just talking about when hes going to ask me yesterday, actually. and he said the same kind of things that your boyfriend, theattack, i think is thinking. at one point he was like, why are we even talking about this? your not supposed to know any of this! i just explained to him that an engagement shouldnt be a surprise. the actual day and time may be a surprise, ok, but it shouldnt come as a surprise that you are getting engaged in a healthy relationship.
i have also totally made up a fake wedding date to look at the knot articles. they are trying to get me to rate my vendors right now… its so funny. i also go to offbeatbride everyday. i dont think its weird to be going to davids bridal or signing up for the knot or whatever though, if you do know that you will be getting married. it would be weird if there hadnt been any talks about a future together, but like for me and myboyfriend, we have talked about it many times. we have actually talked about what the actual wedding will look like. we are almost already planning it- i think i may have found a place that would work for us, and i found the dress i want online (i have realized though, that by the time i want the dress they may not make it anymore…). i dont think that is weird, because i do know that one day i will be getting married and making those decisions with my boyfriend, so what does it hurt to do it now or later? in my mind it doesnt matter… the ring is just a formality. we have already made our decision.
as for the waiting part, i am totally fine waiting. i am in NO rush to be married.